How to Make Couples Therapy Work for You
You are your partner are struggling. Perhaps your disconnection is significant or maybe you feel committed to the relationship but see red flags that need addressing. Couples therapy is not only for couples who can’t figure out how to make change on their own. It can also be useful for insightful couples not feeling quite right and want some help identifying potential blind spots by someone trained in relationship dynamics.
The most successful couples therapy experiences often involve two people who are still invested in the relationship but not necessarily so. Wherever you and your partner exist on the continuum, there are some important considerations to ponder to have the best chance of making couples therapy work for you.
Clarify your hopes. Therapists will often ask you in the beginning what you hope to get from the therapy process. Couples can have entirely different agendas and a good starting point is at the very least be clear on what you each hope to gain from the experience. If you don’t know, that’s ok too.
Be clear on the role of the therapist. It’s not uncommon for people to assume (or hope) that the therapist will “fix” the situation. Unless he/she has a very