Family of Origin Work: Is it Time to Start Digging?
Being a therapist in private practice working with individuals and couples, I see a vast array of issues that people bring. It’s understandable that many hope to solve the problems as soon as possible. Efficiency is always a goal for me too. But often a solution-focused approach isn’t enough, especially if deeper and unhealthy roots have taken hold, only getting further tangled around each other with the passage time.
What do I mean by tangled roots? They are the belief systems having taken hold based on earlier experiences. If you struggle repeatedly in your relationships or in your sense of self, it’s possible you have an unhealthy root system that can benefit from untangling and replanting. Perhaps you learned some things about yourself or how others will be with you that don’t serve you now or even more important, are inaccurate.
Family of origin work is a specific intentional exploration or tending to your history; the quality of your parental relationships, your environment, the existence of traumatic experiences and how you were shaped as a child and upward. This type of therapy then serves as a guide to challenge unhealthy belief systems, coping strategies and defense mechanisms for improved emotional and relationship health.
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