Rindie Eagle, MA, LPCC
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Richard Nicastro, PhD digs into the unfortunate reality of divorce; some of the ways it can come about as well as some important things to keep in mind if it happens.
We don’t get married expecting to be one of the fifty percent of the couples who end up divorcing.
The we’re-going-to-make-it expectation runs so deeply that most of us don’t even entertain the thought that someday we might be the couple fighting over who gets the antique desk and the artwork in the master bedroom. Most of us would never even consider gambling our life savings with these odds (a fifty percent chance that you could lose every penny), and yet, when it comes to marriage and divorce, we willingly roll the marital dice even though the emotional stakes are high.
While not all marital endings are alike, the decision to divorce (or having to divorce because of someone else’s decision) can be devastating.
Divorce is disruptive on many levels. There are the practical and financial upheavals, the untangling of lives once joined so tightly. The impact on children can be considerable. Where love once existed, there is now an emptiness filled with anger and despair. 
The slow burn ending
Some marriages unravel over time.

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This recent study demonstrates what may be intuitive for some but what’s even more helpful is the Inc.com author’s segue into “what to do about it” if you don’t have this attribute in your current relationship.
Study after study proves people who have good relationships–especially with their spouse or significant other–are most likely to achieve happiness.

But what if there was a single attribute that could predict whether relationships would be good enough–and whether the people in them would ultimately be happy or frustrated?

Now, a massive research project (described by the university that sponsored it as the “most comprehensive study” of marriage happiness to date) says there is in fact one such single characteristic.

It’s bigger than any of the other things we often think of in relationships–bigger than compatibility, growth, sexual attraction, intelligence, wisdom, or values. The single attribute? Kindness.

Here’s the study–plus what to do if you’re already in a relationship, but it doesn’t seem to have the level of kindness you realize you might be missing.

5 little questions

Writing in the Journal of Research in Personality, Bill Chopik, associate professor of psychology and director of the Close Relationships Lab at Michigan State University, explained how he combed through data on 2,500 long-term married couples (20+ years) to figure this out.

His data source involved self-reported

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Healthy intimate relationships are one of the biggest joys in life, bringing companionship, laughter and passion into both partners’ lives. When your relationship is based on trust, it serves as a lifeboat, anchor and sail that keeps you afloat, secure and filled with purpose. When jealousy corrodes the trust and respect in your partnership, the […]
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Feeling unworthy and undeserving is pervasive.  It can touch every aspect of your life; your sense of self, your relationships and more.  I resonate with how Tara Brach, Psychologist, Buddhist meditation teacher, speaker and writer, speaks about feeling unworthy.  She says:
“Our most fundamental sense of well-being is derived from the conscious experience of belonging. Relatedness is essential to survival.”
We all need to feel we belong in some way.  Humans are wired to connect, find security in each other and also be a part of something larger in whatever that means.  But we can blocked from this for so many reasons and a sense of inherent deficiency can result.
According to Tara, “When inevitable pain arises, we take it personally. We are diagnosed with a disease or go through a divorce, and we perceive that we are the cause of unpleasantness (we’re deficient) or that we are the weak and vulnerable victim (still deficient). Since everything that happens reflects on me, when something seems wrong, the source of wrong is me. The defining characteristic of the trance of separation is this feeling and fearing of deficiency.”
She goes on to say, “Both our upbringing and our culture provide the immediate breeding ground for

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“There is such restoration in creation to relieve stress” – Susan Winter Many marriages would benefit if spouses put the above sentence into practice! God created man and woman to come together in holy matrimony to reflect His glory and love through the marriage covenant. “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God,…
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Companies aren’t only competing for customers and clients, they are competing for the gold-standard players in the labor market as well. The terms company culture, employee well-being and work-life balance populate most job postings today, as employers hope these perks will draw top talent. But not all perks are created equal. In fact, most employers […]
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There are dozens (if not hundreds) of books and articles out there of extensive questions that you should go through with your potential mate. While they are all valid and important questions, I’m an I-love-questions-and-reading-articles kind of girl while my husband of almost ten years is a let’s-keep-this-as-short-and-sweet-as-possible kind of guy. While it is nice…
The post 5 Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do” appeared first on Start Marriage Right.

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This article was written for the Tony Robbins blog by guest contributor Marie Forleo, and is inspired by content contained in her new book, Everything is Figureoutable. There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy. – Friedrich Nietzsche When you’re faced with an opportunity to grow, it’s normal to feel hesitant […]
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Despite being one of the wealthiest countries on earth, 1 in 9 households in the United States is still food insecure – 37 million Americans struggle to put food on the table. What does this mean? Being food insecure means not knowing from where – or even when – your next meal will come. It means […]
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“On your mark, get set, go!” Other couples around us were tripping and falling but somehow my now husband and I, calmly put our legs together and ran that race as one. We held on to each other, used our joined legs as one, alternating with our individual legs. Rhythmically we kept going until we…
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