Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend is spiraling out of control!
I’m 19 years old and have been dating this guy for 18 months now. We were pretty close friends for about 4 years before we started dating. We met at school and starting dating in our final year of schooling.
When we started dating he was really committed and passionate about cycling. he has been cycling all his life. He was extremely fit looking, riding every day if not twice a day and competed in races all around the country. He didn’t work and didn’t seem to really care (neither did I at the time), he was daggy but very social and had many friends. He was the life of any party and was really respectful, appreciative and affectionate towards me.
We both started uni together but at separate Universities. This didn’t really seem to matter as we made time for each other. He started working a Sunday job and started a website company but he still had time for me and time for his cycling.
In the last 4 months he started to get obsessed with money even to the point that every conversation was about money. He was offered a job with an extremely unfair boss who paid him low