Not many people actually enjoy conflict. Whether it’s a fight with a friend, a rift with a co-worker, or a blowout with your significant other, conflict hurts. But the alternative is lingering grudges, endless speculation, suffering, and sometimes divorce.
Conflicts strengthen relationships—provided they’re resolved properly and something greater comes of them. So how do you make up after conflict? Read on for some tips.
1- Take a Time Out to cool down if the conflict escalates
Just as it works for a three-year-old having a tantrum, a time out works for adults in conflict. If you find yourself in an escalating fight with your partner, call a break for at least thirty minutes. If your partner asks for the Time Out, honour their request. Use this time to take a walk by yourself or sit quietly in another room.
Practice deep abdominal breathing: inhale for five beats, hold for four, and then exhale for five. Three deep cleansing breaths are enough to clear most intense emotions. More than that is even better. While you’re cooling down, don’t think about the conflict—that will just reignite the anger. If your mind is too agitated to settle through breathing or meditation (and you don’t want to take


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